I have just dreamt up a term. It may become the latest buzz-word! Maybe it will go viral! I have never heard of this before, but it solves all my problems stemming from my beliefs and values that are rooted in “Being the Best I can Be,” in one go. “Flexible Perfection!”
What am I talking about? All my life I have strived to be the best I can be. This is rooted in my beliefs, and my beliefs create my values. From my beliefs and values I choose my level of integrity. I don’t like the concept of delivering second best, less than perfect, what I would call faulty, and what my Gran would have called “shoddy goods.”
Trying to keep to this high benchmark of perfection can only mean one thing. If I sit upon the pedestal, I will fall off. Cause and effect. I am supremely human and WILL make mistakes. I am told that we learn from mistakes. I still cringe over mistakes I made in the past, and my lesson is, “Don’t ever do that again!” From that pocket of thinking stems adjectives such as, “bad,” “naughty,” “silly,” “embarrassing.” I discovered an amazing concept in my Neuro Linguistic Programming course: “There is no failure; only feedback!”
Wow! A revelation. For everything I do, I receive feedback. The feedback assists me to make the next choice or decision. It may motivate me to stop doing one thing and start doing another. But it does not judge my Soul. I will save Blogs about my Soul for another time.
If shoddy goods are not acceptable, what is? And how do I achieve this in every facet of my life? Onto the stage trots “Flexible Perfection!”
In between shoddy goods and absolute heavenly perfection lies a whole range of outcomes. As long as I aim to be the BEST THAT I CAN BE in every situation (Perfection), I accept that I am challenged in every aspect of my life. To simplify:
Physical: I have some wonderful days rock climbing, where I get into the dance of it, and float up the cliff. I lead a climb (easy one) and feel proud of myself. But, I get tired. I ache. I do not bend and stretch the way I used to. I am getting older. When I exercise I am not as fast or as strong as I used to be (and I never was very fast or strong anyway!) Flexible Perfection! Because I still try to do the best I can do, and that is perfect for me.
Emotional: I am sometimes clear minded, peaceful and calm, and full of reciprocated love, and sometimes wobble all over the place with anxiety and worry, stressing ready to go pop! Then POP! So my emotional perfection is definitely very flexible! I actually decided perfection in emotion was a lost cause long ago. Flexible does not even start to describe my emotional states of being. But, there again, that’s me!
Mental: I may be thinking fast and efficiently, reading books, taking in information, problem solving and delivering solutions. Ah, but next thing, I am forgetting names, wondering what I did last week, and as for remembering the words of folk songs that I want to sing; the words slip off into the mental undergrowth only to appear a week later long after needed. Flexible perfection. I know I have done my best, and it so depends on the time of day, or night, how tired I am, how busy I am, or how distracted I am as to how flexible that perfection needs to be.
So, I aim high, and accept that I need a flexible approach to being satisfied with myself. Having coined the term “Flexible Perfection,” I am happy that it covers all manner of idiosyncrasies and long may that continue.